Are you perceived impolite?
“There are some things that money can’t buy, like manners, morals, and integrity.”
When you want to get along with people, having good manners is crucial. However, it’s not always simple to tell for sure whether you come across as impolite or careless.
There could be several causes for this. For instance, you might not be aware that your behavior is unfit if you haven’t had much experience in social situations or if you have trouble reading body language.
Especially with the work from home and hybrid model getting more and more encouragement- we have lost the habit of interacting with each other daily.
Examples of impolite behavior include failing to acknowledge greetings from others, using language that is offensive to those around you, and showing up late for an appointment without providing any justification.
1) Don’t talk about yourself too much.
“Me, mine and myself” philosophy doesn’t work!
Talking constantly about yourself makes you appear egotistical and rude. Try to maintain balance in your conversations. Good conversations have a back-and-forth flow where both people have a chance to say something.
Always have a conversation with a mindset:
“What can I learn from this person?”
It is simpler to come up with questions to ask someone when you are genuinely interested in what they have to say.
2) The misuse of Sarcasm
Using sarcasm in most conversations is hit or miss, particularly if the other person doesn’t already know your sense of humor. So always consider your audience before speaking, and consider whether the moment is appropriate.
For instance, when you meet someone new, it might be inappropriate to comment on their outfit or accent. You should avoid passing funny comments which the other person might find less funny and more offensive!
3) Pay close attention to what others are saying.
You’ll come across as rude if the person talking to your senses that your attention is diverted or that you’re just waiting for your turn to speak rather than paying attention to what they have to say.
Use your body language to show interest when someone is speaking to you. Lean slightly forward, nod in agreement when they speak, and keep them in your line of sight. Be cautious when filling silences. Permit the other person to collect their thoughts.
4) Obtain consent before offering advice.
Although it’s tempting to offer suggestions, the other person may just want to vent. If someone asks you “What do you think?” or “What would you do in my situation?” wait to respond. Because it implies that you are more knowledgeable about their situation than they are, most people won’t like it if you tell them what to do.
5) Be modest
When you try to outdo someone else or boast, you are implying that your experiences are more valuable or interesting than theirs. It’s acceptable to mention your accomplishments or possessions as long as they are pertinent to the topic at hand.
Showing respect and consideration for others is the root of good conversational manners. Ask your close friends and family to point out any of your conversational tendencies that might come across as impolite if you’re unsure. Once you are aware of these concepts, you can work on them to improve your conversational skills.
Because words have the power to heal and wound someone too!
Stay Awesome. Stay Productive.
– Divas Gupta