How To Gracefully Accept Feedback
Do you also feel scared when you hear the word “feedback” ?
You feel your flaws might be highlighted.
You feel your weaknesses will be attacked.
You feel you will be insulted.
But the truth is that feedbacks are crucial for growth. You can’t progress in your career if you don’t ask for feedback. One of the quickest ways to focus our efforts, correct our course, and achieve our goals is through feedback.
We often talk about how to give feedback effectively, but we rarely hear about how to accept feedback well, when the overall effectiveness of the exchange rests with the receiver rather than the deliverer.
And asking the RIGHT QUESTIONS during the feedback process is so IMPORTANT.
Let’s look at some examples!
1) Ask open-ended questions
Asking open-ended questions would make sure that you receive detailed responses, which you can use to gather additional information about a specific topic.
- What are some specific ways I can help our team’s mission?
- What do you think is working and not working with my time management right now?
- Which aspects of my working and communication style most concern you?
- What can I do to get ready for the next project or role?
2) Ask yes/no questions
You can ask these questions when you want a quick output.
This type of question can be used to quickly confirm an idea or validate a gut feeling.
- “Have I shown improvements in X?”
- “Do you think I/we should take this course of action?”
3) Ask follow-up questions for clarifications
This is often an opportunity to ask more specific questions about a situation or task. Don’t miss an opportunity to learn by rushing past answers you don’t understand.
- “Can you tell me more about that?”
- “Can you elaborate upon that part?”
- “Can you tell me more about how I can improve X?”
While taking feedbacks, remember these points:
1) Remain Positive- While taking feedbacks, instead of getting angry, take a deep breath and remind yourself that the person giving you feedback is only trying to help you.
2) Listen actively – You must remain engaged and listen to the points made by others in order to return to your work and make any necessary changes with as much clarity and direction as possible.
3) Compile the Feedback- It’s easy to become perplexed when you receive constructive criticism. To avoid any confusion or miscommunication, make sure you summarise the feedback that was provided.
4) Express thankfulness – After receiving useful feedback, you should say “thank you.” It may appear counterintuitive to thank someone for pointing out a flaw and thus creating more work for you. But feedbacks leads to growth.
You must understand that feedbacks exists to help you be better at your job, which means you must learn to accept it as well as implement it.
If taken positively, feedbacks can help you grow in the long-run!
Stay Awesome. Stay Productive.
– Divas Gupta